As our world rapidly evolves with shifting cultural and traditional norms, the distinction between right and wrong has become increasingly blurred. In the rush to embrace the latest trends, people often forget to uphold ethical principles, leading to widespread moral confusion. This shift has far-reaching consequences, not only for society but also for individuals. One of the most profound effects of immorality is its impact on mental and emotional well-being. Each action we take has a potential positive or negative effect on our mental health. By pursuing temporary pleasures through immoral behaviours, individuals risk pushing themselves towards destruction. Understanding the psychological toll of immorality is essential in addressing the root causes of many emotional and mental health problems that plague modern society.
Sharmin Khan Deshmukh, a psychologist and co-founder of Mindwiz, explains, “In psychology, morality plays a crucial role in shaping human behaviour and mental well-being. From a humanistic perspective, individuals are accountable for their actions and must adhere to ethical standards to lead fulfilling lives. Without these moral boundaries, there is a risk of normalizing harmful behaviours and compromising mental health. As a society, it’s of utmost importance that we model moral behaviour. The environment plays a crucial role in shaping an individual. Holding on to our moral values, encouraging emotional regulation, and providing an environment that encourages empathy and compassion are essential interventions. These strategies can help individuals develop a strong moral compass, ensuring strong mental well-being and societal harmony.”
In this article, we will explore the negative impacts of immoral vices, particularly in relation to gender relations. These practices have been legalized in some countries and are viewed as lifestyles in the modern world. They deviate from traditional marital norms and are considered immoral by many religious standards. The relationship between a man and a woman is inherently sacred, and marriage is regarded as a fundamental institution in every religion to protect and honour this relationship. By examining the negative consequences of these modern practices, we can better appreciate the importance of maintaining traditional values that safeguard the institution of marriage.
Extramarital Affairs
Infidelity is often a topic discussed only in whispers and is generally frowned upon in society. However, many people fail to realize that it impacts not only social reputation but also has significant mental and physical consequences. Engaging in an extramarital affair can be incredibly stressful and challenging.
Research shows that several factors can lead to extramarital affairs, including insecure attachment, conflict avoidance, prolonged lack of sex, loneliness, and years of monotony and repetitive arguments. Some individuals cheat for the thrill or as a form of self-discovery, exploring ‘what could have been’ scenarios or seeking a new identity through a lover. However, is it wise to choose a path that disrupts peace and leads to lifelong struggle?
Dr. Rahul Khemani, a renowned psychiatrist at Wockhardt Hospital in Mumbai, explains, “Extramarital affairs are burdened with secrecy, clandestine elements, and the fear of being discovered. Paradoxically, these factors fuel the affair and make it difficult to escape. As the affair continues, individuals grapple with the consequences and the decision of whether to come clean or not.”
Extramarital affairs often lead to significant emotional and psychological strain. The guilt of hurting a spouse can erode one’s emotional well-being, leading to decreased confidence and self-esteem, which exacerbates stress and mental turmoil. The constant fear of being caught adds to this stress, as individuals worry about the potential impact on their family and social reputation, leading to anxiety and emotional instability. This combination of guilt and fear can cause severe mental exhaustion, as managing two relationships simultaneously leads to stress and burnout. Overthinking the repercussions can further damage self-esteem, making individuals feel solely responsible for the problems. Despite the excitement some find in an affair or as a break from routine, the emotional burden and negative impact on mental health are profound. It is unwise to jeopardize one’s marriage and mental well-being for fleeting moments of excitement.
A study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that individuals who experienced infidelity reported high levels of emotional distress, including depression, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy. Research from the Journal of Family Psychology indicates that extramarital affairs lead to a significant decline in marital satisfaction and trust, with long-term impacts on the stability of the relationship.
Infidelity can have profound and lasting effects on children as well. When children become aware of a parent’s infidelity, they may experience significant emotional distress, including confusion, hurt, and betrayal. This can lead to anxiety, sadness, and anger. Such breaches of trust can undermine their ability to trust others and affect their self-esteem, leading to feelings of unworthiness. Behavioural changes, such as withdrawal, aggression, or academic struggles, may also occur as a result of the turmoil. The disruption of family dynamics caused by infidelity can create instability in a child’s life, affecting their sense of security. Additionally, children may develop negative views about relationships and marriage, potentially impacting their future relationships and mental health. Overall, the emotional impact of infidelity can have serious consequences.
Live-in Relationships
Live-in relationships, where couples cohabit without formal marriage, have become increasingly popular as societal norms evolve. This lifestyle choice is often driven by a desire for personal freedom, the ability to explore compatibility without legal or social constraints, and a preference for non-traditional arrangements. However, the informal nature of live-in relationships can lead to significant psychological impacts. The lack of formal commitment can create uncertainty and anxiety about the future, affecting emotional stability and self-esteem. Individuals might worry about the potential for the relationship to end, leading to stress and insecurity.
Moreover, live-in relationships can present challenges such as instability and social pressure. Without the formal commitment of marriage, couples may face difficulties in maintaining long-term stability, which can result in frequent conflicts and emotional strain. Social stigma or pressure from family and friends who adhere to traditional views can further contribute to emotional stress. Additionally, the potential for emotional turmoil during a breakup can be intensified by the absence of legal and social support structures, impacting individuals’ mental health and future relationship dynamics. Understanding these psychological impacts is crucial for navigating live-in relationships and maintaining overall well-being.
Research from the National Marriage Project in the U.S. found that cohabiting couples tend to have poorer relationship quality and higher rates of relationship dissolution compared to married couples. A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family highlighted that cohabiting individuals often experience higher levels of depression compared to their married counterparts. Experiencing a breakup in a live-in relationship can create long-term trust issues and fear of commitment in future relationships. If children are involved, the instability of live-in relationships can lead to negative psychological outcomes for them, including behavioural issues and emotional insecurity.
Homosexuality
The psychological impact of homosexuality, particularly in terms of negative effects, is largely influenced by external factors such as societal attitudes, discrimination, stigma, and lack of support rather than homosexuality itself. Research indicates that the primary sources of psychological distress among LGBTQ+ individuals stem from societal pressures rather than their sexual orientation.
Studies show that LGBTQ+ individuals, including homosexuals, have higher rates of depression and anxiety. A significant contributor to these mental health challenges is the stress from societal rejection, discrimination, and internalized homophobia. Despite its legalization in some places, the number of individuals identifying as homosexual remains minimal, and societal acceptance is still limited. This results in long-term stress and mental instability.
According to surveys, LGBTQ+ individuals are at a higher risk of substance abuse as a coping mechanism for the stress and stigma they encounter. The risk of suicide is also higher among LGBTQ+ individuals compared to their heterosexual counterparts. Studies show that LGBTQ+ youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers, largely due to experiences of bullying, harassment, and lack of acceptance. Additionally, internal conflicts and trust issues are prevalent.
A study published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology found that LGBTQ+ individuals experience significantly higher levels of mental health issues compared to heterosexuals, largely due to societal discrimination. Research from the Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing indicated that LGBTQ+ youth who experience high levels of family rejection are 8.4 times more likely to attempt suicide, 5.9 times more likely to experience depression, and 3.4 times more likely to use illegal drugs than their peers who are accepted by their families.
After examining the negative impacts of these immoral practices, it is clear that they disrupt individual peace, harm concerned family members, and even push society towards destruction.
Dr. ShaheenSaiyed, a Consultant Psychiatrist and Deputy Director at DHS, Goa, explains, “Morality is essentially the ability to differentiate between good and bad. This innate ability is present in every human being from birth, but its expression typically emerges during the later developmental stages as the brain matures. It is one of the qualities that distinguish humans from other creatures.”
Our mind comprises three parts: the id, the ego, and the superego. The id represents primitive desires and is active during infancy and early childhood. As we grow, the ego takes centrestage, balancing needs and desires based on past experiences and societal expectations. The ego is responsible for moral reasoning but may justify its actions and shift blame to external factors when it fails to adhere to moral principles.
The superego develops simultaneously and, in some individuals, takes precedence, placing morality at the forefront of their actions, feelings, and emotions. Such individuals are often regarded as having high spiritual values or being ‘Godly’ by societal standards. When human behaviour is guided by the principle of morality, it fosters a sense of closeness to God or a higher power.
At any given moment, humans face two choices: right or wrong, good or bad. The decisions made are influenced by the state of the mind. When the superego is dominant, right choices are more likely, leading to a sense of peace and solace, which enhances the ability to make right choices in the future. Conversely, when the ego is in control, the outcome may be less certain. If wrong choices are made, there is often a lack of peace and a sense of fear and uncertainty, which can lead to indecisiveness and repeated mistakes.
Adhering to moral principles fosters hope, fulfilment, gratitude, compassion, satisfaction, and certainty. A society where more individuals apply morality is likely to be liveable, prosperous, and flourishing.
Islam explicitly forbids all sexual activities outside of marriage. The Qur’an states, “And those who commit this sin (unlawful sexual intercourse or homosexuality), strike them with a painful punishment” (Qur’an 4:16). This position supports the Islamic teaching of chastity and the sanctity of sex within marriage. Islam emphasizes that the creator of mankind and the universe has set guidelines to meet the needs of His creations. Deviating from these rules leads to long-term psychological turmoil and disrupts balance in every aspect of life. Mental stability is essential for focusing on any task, and when this balance is lost, it affects not just the individual but the entire surrounding community as well.
Islamic teachings encourage individuals to adhere to moral principles to ensure personal well-being and social harmony. Immoral practices, such as extramarital affairs, live-in relationships, and homosexuality, not only harm individuals but also undermine the structure of families and societies. By following the moral guidelines set by Islam, individuals can achieve peace, fulfilment, and a stable society.
In essence, maintaining moral values is not just a personal responsibility but a societal necessity. It helps in preserving the sanctity of relationships, ensuring mental and emotional well-being, and fostering a thriving community. As Islam guides its followers towards ethical living, it becomes clear that adhering to these principles is crucial for achieving long-term happiness and stability.